Preparing for the first day of school

For many families the new year marks an exciting milestone, the year their little one starts school. It can be a time of mixed emotions and big feelings. And rightfully so, this is a big transition, mentally and physically. Whether your child is excited or anxious about starting school, there are practical ways you can support their transition and help manage big feelings. 

1. Talk about the first day of school 
Talk with your child about what to expect on their first day and reassure them school is a safe and happy place to be. Discuss the new things they will do and learn, and the new friends they will make. This helps them visualise their new routine and feel more comfortable with the idea of school. 

2. Show excitement 
It’s natural to feel emotional about your child starting school so try to focus on the positives and show excitement when you talk about it. Your enthusiasm will help your child feel more confident and excited too. 

3. Practise lunchtime routines 
Make lunchtime fun by having picnics in the backyard. Practise opening lunch boxes, unwrapping sandwiches and a using drink bottle. This will help them feel more independent and give you an idea of how they will manage eating a packed lunch at school. 

4. Label school supplies together 
Involve your child in labelling their school supplies. Ask them to point out their name or talk about the letters in their name as you label their belongings. This can help them feel a sense of ownership while supporting early literacy. 

5. Try on the uniform 
Help your child practise getting dressed in their school uniform. Talk about what a uniform is and why it’s important. Go through all the items they will need, like socks, shoes and hats, so they become familiar with everything before the big day. 

6. Play dates with other children starting school 
Reach out to parents you may know or connect with through school orientation events or community groups. Arrange a play date at a local park so children can get to know each other. A familiar face on the first day can ease nerves and help your child feel part of the school community. This is an opportunity for you to connect with other parents and build your own support network as you navigate this exciting new chapter together. 

7. Visit the school 
If possible, explore the school grounds or walk past the school and point it out to your child. Familiarising them with the school’s location can help reduce any fear of the unknown. If you have attended a transition day, remind them of the experience: “Remember when we visited your school and you met your teacher, Mrs Smith? You’ll get to see her again when you start school.” 

8. Be patient with the transition 
Even the most prepared children may find the first day of school overwhelming. It’s normal for children to feel a mix of emotions as they adjust to a new environment and new routines. Make time to listen when your child tells you about their day and ask them about the good things that happened in their day. Your positivity will help your child to be more positive too. 

9. Be kind to yourself 
Starting school is a big deal for parents and carers too.  It's a proud moment, but you may also feel mixed emotions as your child leaves your care for a longer period. Plan something nice for yourself, have coffee with a friend, go for a massage or take some time to just relax and prepare for what's to come after school pick up!

10. Share books about starting school with your child 
Sharing books about school can help your child understand what to expect and how to manage big feelings. Here are some suggestions: 

• How to go to Big School by Sarah Ayoub  
• My First Day by Nic Naitanui  
• Going to Big School by Laura Skeveking  
• Meatball Goes to School by Tom Jellett  

Starting school is a big step. For you and your child. Taking a few little steps to prepare can help your child feel ready, confident and positive about the changes that will come as they step into this new chapter.